What do you think of this trend? Is it teaching kids to learn to do things for themselves? Or is it teaching them adults can't be trusted and they HAVE to do everything themselves?
I've actually not encountered those books or movies. Thank you for calling my attention to them. Now I'll know what I'm are getting into if I read (or watch) them. They are not the only books and movies out, though.
There are other books, and other series, where the parents are 'adult', responsible, helpful and caring and yet encourage the child to go out and experience life (without putting tons of apron strings and smothering them with schka).
In some societies, the older people are respected, because they have earned that respect. They are wise, and patient and have a gnosis knowing which is wonderful and beautiful. They make GREAT parents (and grandparents).
I gradually learned that I had to learn to do things for myself. Some adults that I grew up with could be trusted and some absolutely not. But they were role models -- and it was my choice whether I follow in their footsteps or not. Sometimes, especially when I was younger, I followed, willy-nilly, because that is what I was expected to do, and sort of 'forced' into doing, before I found I could say a high-quality no (ie not a 'resistance' no but just 'no') and choose otherwise. Perhaps if I'd seen these movies and read these books it would have occurred to me that willy-nilly was NOT necessary; it would have occurred to me that I could choose otherwise a lot sooner than I did!
The good news is that a person might be reading Harry Potter books (some awesome parenting/adult role models as well as how-not-to-parent role models in them) and then books about parents who are ineffective and that person might wonder about life in general and perhaps they might choose to be different than what they are -- and when they are parents, they are alert and aware of more than just the societies labels of what is true (and what is false).
I'm totally delighted to know of the kids born to parents who are here at HOL Hogwarts and who are exposed to notions of 'magic is' and "it is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities."
Sometimes it is people writing books about stuff like this (Arianna's post) which gets folks to thinking about it and wondering about it -- and then change might happen -- if only for that one person. But that is how change happens ... person by person.