Fascinating topic, Will!
I've had a couple of leadership roles (School Council years ago and coordinating NaNoWriMo for my region last year) and it was always as part of a team . So I guess my main take away from leadership thus far is adaptability and give and take: knowing when to step forward and take charge so that something gets done or you do your fair share of work and when to leave it to someone else to deal with. Simultaniously, you have to be ready to jump in if someone else is having problems and can't cover that particular duty for whatever reason. Encouragement and light-heartedness is also a large part of my leadership style-I like people I'm organising things for or in charge of to like me and feel they're getting something out of my being there (as I'm there for them, not for myself). That's not to say I haven't had to take a harsher stance but then, I learned the value of diplomacy, clear explanation of what was expected and not saying what perhaps I'd quite like to to someone when they kick off. That being said, you also have to know when to shut that person down to stop it effecting others.
I'm not sure my 'nice' leadership approach would work in a lot of situations (I'm not even sure it's worked perfectly for me and there have certainly been incidences when I've felt like shouting to make myself heard) but I guess it's something you learn as you go along.
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